Episode 2: Part 1: What I’d Do If I Had to Rebuild My Businesses From Scratch (Copy)
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Over the past 9 years, I’ve built three companies—and with that came the beautiful highs and the gritty lows. In this episode, I’m sharing the real stuff: the emotional lessons, the burnout, the boundaries, and how I’ve learned (and am still learning) to lead from a more regulated and grounded place.
This isn’t about burning it all down. It’s about realigning, making small internal shifts that make a massive difference. I’m sharing 6 key things I’d do differently (and still work on), including the self-care I used to ignore, how I finally started setting actual boundaries, why I’m leaning into fun, and a preview of the 80/20 leadership framework I’ll break down in part 2.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
The truth about emotional regulation in entrepreneurship
Why boundaries with YOURSELF might be harder than with clients
How I stop taking responsibility for things that aren’t mine
The role of self-compassion and nervous system support
Why having fun again in your biz really matters
And the game-changing 80/20 rule I now live by (preview of part 2)
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If you’ve ever had the urge to burn it all down and start fresh… you’re not alone.
But what if you didn’t need to scorch the earth to create alignment?
If you’ve scaled to seven figures (or you're rapidly heading there), you know the success doesn’t always feel how you thought it would. And that’s not because you’re doing it wrong, it’s because what got you here won’t get you to what’s next. In this powerful solo episode of the Magnetic Millionaire Podcast, Alyssa unpacks what she would really do if she had to start all over again. And we’re not talking in terms of strategy or offers (we saved that for part two!) but in how she leads herself.
Because no matter how optimized your business is, it will only grow to the level of your capacity, emotionally, energetically, and mentally. And that’s the part most people skip. Sometimes, it’s not that the strategy is broken. It’s that we’re not being supported enough to actually run it.
If you’re craving more clarity, more peace, and more personal power in how you run your business, this is your reminder: You don’t have to rebuild the whole machine. But you do need to recalibrate the foundation you’re building it on. Let’s get into the six foundational shifts that create space for deeper alignment and more scalable success.
Emotional Support Is Non-Negotiable
Entrepreneurship is not for the faint of heart, and if you’re playing at a high level, you’re already holding more than most people understand. That’s why my first “start-over” move isn’t a funnel… it’s emotional regulation. Massages, coaching, journaling, nervous system work… whatever it takes to come back to center and finding what works for YOU to come back to your center. Without emotional regulation, I made too many decisions from fear and urgency, not power or clarity.
I took nearly a full year off (after hitting burnout SUPER hard) and traveled solo across the western U.S. with my dog and trailer. It wasn’t a luxury, it was a survival strategy. And it’s one that paid dividends emotionally, creatively, and financially. When you’re the visionary, your energy is the business. And regulating your nervous system is not a luxury, it’s a leadership strategy. It’s a non-negotiable.
Boundaries Are the Business Plan
This might be hard to hear, but it’s the truth… If you're overextended and overwhelmed, it’s not always a capacity problem, it’s often a boundary problem. I’ve implemented boundaries across four core areas: myself, clients, team, and loved ones. One key strategy? Defining “beast mode” vs. “maintenance mode” seasons. I knows when I am in full execution and I plan ahead for when to intentionally slow down.
The more I rested, the more my business grew. The more I paused, the more space my team had to rise.
You have to get unapologetically clear about how your company operates: scope, systems, communication methods, and expectations. Not to be rigid, but to protect clarity and energy across the board. If you want to scale with sustainability, boundaries aren’t a buzzword. They’re a blueprint.
Stop Holding What Was Never Yours
This one is big. High-performing women often over-function for everyone around them. Clients, team, friends, even collaborators. And while it may look like generosity, it’s often a subconscious way to control outcomes or avoid disappointment.
I have personally undergone so much growth around releasing the need to “handle everything,” even when it comes to close friends and team projects. Letting others take ownership isn’t just better for you, it’s empowering for them. You’re doing a disservice to the people in your life when you don’t let them show up for you. Whether it’s a team member’s role or a friend’s offer to help, stop robbing others of their growth because of your attachment to control.
Lead with Compassion, Not Pressure
This business isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present and honest about what you need.
There’s an inner dialogue that so many of us carry: the guilt over a missed workout, the shame of needing rest, the constant hum of “I should be doing more.” But here’s the truth: self-compassion is the most underrated leadership trait.
I tell my team all the time, ‘We’re not surgeons, no one’s dying if we miss a deadline.’ But I had to learn to apply that grace to myself. The next level of success isn’t about squeezing more from yourself, it’s about learning how to be with yourself, even in the messiness. Compassion creates sustainability. Punishment creates burnout.
Make Fun a Metric (Seriously)
When’s the last time you had fun in your business?
Not fleeting dopamine hits or launch-week highs, but we’re talking real, embodied joy?
For years, I believed rest or enjoyment had to be “earned.” But after hosting a retreat where I realized I wasn’t even enjoying myself, I started to question that conditioning. If the business doesn’t feel fun anymore, that’s a red flag. Not a rite of passage. What I realized is this: fun is a valid business KPI. When something no longer feels aligned, it’s time to delete it, delegate it, or redefine it. Let joy be a growth strategy.
Trust Your Team with the 80/20 Rule
This is where mindset meets method.
What I’m leaving you with as the final insight in Part 1 is the foundation for Part 2: how I learned to delegate in a way that freed my time, expanded my team’s confidence, and created real scalability.
Enter: the 80/20 Rule.
Instead of giving my team a fully mapped plan, I now give the goal and parameters and let them build the first 80% of the project. Only then do I step in to offer feedback and refine direction. They finish the final 20%. This one shift completely changed how I lead. I finally understood what it meant to delegate without control. This isn’t about lowering standards, it’s about building trust, reducing pre-work, and increasing innovation. (And in Part 2, I’ll show you how to apply it step by step.)
You Don’t Have to Burn It Down to Realign
If your business feels off or like it’s costing you more than it’s giving it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re ready for a new foundation.
My message to you is simple but powerful:
You don’t have to start over. But you do have to start by taking care of the person leading it.
These energetic and emotional recalibrations aren’t soft; they’re strategic. Because burnout blocks vision. And overfunctioning breaks business models. You can’t scale sustainably if you’re running on fumes, guilt, or obligation.
The Magnetic Millionaire isn’t just about hitting numbers. It’s about building a business that holds you, excites you, and reflects your next-level values.
What’s Next? Part 2: The Strategy Behind the Reset
In the next episode, I break down the tangible strategies I would implement if I had to rebuild, starting with the exact delegation process behind the 80/20 rule, how I would structure my team, and the strategic levers I would focus on first.
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